Pause for Grace


There is a popular self-help person that fucked up in a big way.  There are serious gaps in this person's self-awareness.  

The community though, overall is showing a complete lack of grace.  

It isn't their place to do that as this person is a thought leader and being a thought leader that is leading people to where they share this same lack of self-awareness would be just awful.  

But it is more than that. 

It is an opportunity to take someone down a peg for trying.  For being.  For having the audacity.  The unmitigated gall.  (Anyone?  No?  Ok then, here)

It is a bit of crab mentality.  I'm sure you've heard of it, but in case you need a reminder.  Crab mentality relates to the way that crabs grab onto each other and keep everyone and anyone from escaping the pot.  For us non-crab people, it is "if I can't have it, no one can."  It is a scarcity mindset.

Yes, we need to keep our leaders accountable.  Yes, we need to know when someone is no longer a leader we wish to follow.  I don't want to live in a "cancel" society.  I experienced that with Jane Fonda, The Dixie Chicks, and I'm good.  

I choose to go in a different direction.  I know this leader and I are not heading in the same direction so I can move on. 

With grace, I hope she can find counsel that will help her with her self-awareness as I know her true desire is to become a person she can be proud of.  With grace, I pray my blind spots are pointed out to me.

Pause for grace.  Where do you need to receive it?  Where do you need to give it?

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  1. This really hit me in the heart. I have a hard time pausing for grace and often find myself in the “crab mentality” I feel slighted, so I retaliate….. most of the time it’s totally unintentional on the other persons behalf and I know better than tp behave that way. Thanks for the reminder to live more intentionally! Hugs!